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Strategies for helping kids adjust to divorce in North Carolina

On Behalf of | Nov 11, 2022 | Divorce |

Children are greatly affected by dramatic changes that occur when parents separate. Suddenly, they have to adjust to shifting from one parent’s place of residence to another, the possibility of enrolling in a new school, making new friends or accommodating new partners their parents begin to see. With all of these changes and challenges, it is entirely understandable for your child to feel overwhelmed, confused, sad or angry.

Be there for your child emotionally

Let your children know it’s okay to express their feelings and talk about what they’re going through. Listen to them attentively and without judgment. Reassure them that both you and their other parent still love them very much, despite the divorce.

Make sure they understand what’s happening

Explain the situation to them in an age-appropriate way. Be honest, but avoid going into too much detail about the reasons for the divorce or any negative feelings you have towards their other parent.

Help them stay connected to their other parent

If possible, try to schedule visits and phone calls when your child is likely in good spirits to connect with the other parent. And avoid talking negatively about your child’s other parent in front of them. This negativity will make it harder for them to cope, but you could also face legal consequences if your ex-partner decides to take you to court.

Having a child-centered divorce can help minimize the negative impact that divorce can have on them. This technique means making decisions with your child’s best interests in mind rather than focusing solely on what you want. In addition, you may need to consider out-of-court divorce so that you and your soon-to-be ex can have more control or say over the decisions about your child.